humans are social beings, 2nd edition (revised and improved)

yeah people, this is the revised version of the note i posted in my facebook. it wont be exactly the same but it will still be about the same thing :)

some recent conversations with some random people led me to think about how everyday we meet different people.
and we talk to them.
and we interact with them.
thus we make friends.

it's inevitable since we are social beings, we will always need others. however, do we treat other nicely? do we treat other nicely just because we need them? or we even dont treat people nicely at all!?

JC told us to love our neighbour as ourselves. have we obeyed him?

let's discuss few cases:

case #1:

i was chatting with my sis while we're strolling in the city, in the midst of lunch rush, we came to this conversation on how sometimes people expect one to treat themselves nicely while they themselves not doing it. even the secular world have this principle "what you want people to do to you or for you, you do it first to them or for them". otherwise, you will live in one disappointment after another, living in too high expectations of people will be kind to you when you are just sitting there doing nothing.

case #2:

do not judge a book by its cover. cliche? yet so true. 2 days ago on the collins street tram, there was this little italian lady trying to find her way to bourke street. guess who helped her? not one of those executives clad in armani suits, no. it was this aboriginal woman who ended up chatting with me and the little old lady. surprised? no. people can look nice but they might not be nice at all.

case #3:

how if you're trying to be a nice and good person but somehow circumstances keep playing their trick on you? like a recent experience of an undisclosed source. she lost something. not her fault. then she found out who took it. no one believes her. what could she do? get angry? what for? my own experience told me that all evildoings will have its own punishment in the end. there's no need to worry too much. pray for that person to repent and just keep going on with what you have.

case #4:

i had a conversation yesterday that reminded me on how i take on this matter in life.

bambi is my faithful clinic partner, who at times can be irritating and he knows it (that he's irritating at times). but still, we're in very good term (coz we spend 5 years working together) and we even think that we are the dream team! he usually fall asleep when doing suction for me, which everyone in dental now know as a common knowledge :p anyway, we were in a taxi, the three of us, me, deb and bambi, and we were chatting away till we struck this topic... it goes abit like this...

deb : "i love working with jane [her clinic partner], she's the best nurse!"
bambi : "oh, me and alice is the dream team..."
deb : "everyone will say that they and their partner is the dream team!"
bambi: "yeah... but the thing is, we're the dream team because alice has just so much patience with me. the way she wakes me up if i fell asleep suctioning is just like calling "bambi... bambi..." she's never angry or shout at me..."
alice : "well, i guess... i don't like it if someone scold me in front of the patient and i guess you wouldn't like it either, so i won't do it to you..."
taxi driver : "this is spencer street station, where do you want me to drop you off?"

now you know my stand.

please note that it is not that you have to be nice first SO THAT people will be nice to you. i just think that, isnt it nice to be nice to other people? it takes less muscle to smile, thus less effort, than to frown. you never lose anything by being nice to people. maybe experience taught you that being nice is just a waste of time, everyone will just end up using you. you know what? i dont care~ i have lost things by being nice to people but those are just temporary things, i dont care, honestly. i feel happier being a nice person than a grumpy person.

yeah, to quote L, a sincerely nice person is a rare gem. if you befriend one treasure him/her. but what's better is for you to be one. personally, i think we should just be nice to everyone, yet still, be firm when you need to. be friend with everyone, accept them the way they are, along with their weaknesses. we have weaknesses too, dont we?

let's learn together to be a good friend.